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When I am Asked "wow, you lost weight, how did you do it?"
I don't seem to have a Simple answer.
So today I was thinking about how I could answer that question as simple as possible
HOW "did" I lose the menopausal weight?
I thought of losing weight being like.... "Wanting to Bake a Cake"!
You need the right Recipe.
(funny way to think of "how to lose weight" as "how to bake a cake")
But it's true,
If you wanted a CAKE
could you just stick a
Cake pan in the OVEN
HOPE for a Cake?
Of course not! You need to have the right ingredients and follow a great recipe
Isn't that true for most of what we want out of life.... it takes gathering the right "Truth"
Using time and energy as we measure it out, our energy and commitment to see it through, and then putting it in the Oven and having patience's (waiting) while it takes time
for aroma of success to unfold. (well, kind of dumb
, but you get the picture, right?)
people want to just POP a pill in to their body,
like you POP a cake pan in the Oven and HOPE to get results!
W A K E U P and Smell the stupidity!
So, I'm going to endeavor to write a type of recipe for Losing Weight.
I think, I think I got it....
Just like any recipe, if you forget an ingredient... it won't turn out right.
Like forgetting baking powder.... FLAT CAKE! Or just throwing a bunch of ingredients into a cake pan and sticking that in the oven ... Oh forget it... what a mess!
Seriously, You need to follow all the steps, not leave out any ingredients and properly prepare the cake batter before putting it in the oven. Same truth applies here!
(get ready, it may get brutal)
The First steps in the Recipe are as simple as A B C D
Soul search WHY Are YOU FAT? - ahhh Admit YOUR FAT
"Hi my name is Dumb-Dumb and I am Fat"
What? you think you're really hiding the fact that you're fat, or pretending you're ok being a "little overweight"? Come on... 20 lbs over weight is like carrying around another person (ok, a toddler)
We are a judgmental, critical and may I say hypocritical
society. Don't kid yourself, people DO judge you by how you look. Ever hear of "first impressions"? You're look is your first impression. It shouts out either:
"I respect myself, therefore I take care of myself"
"I don't respect myself therefore I neglect myself"
THIS IS NUMBER "ONE"
to a weight loss program: Respecting
You heard me....
. deal with it! Yes, it hurts! That why we avoid admitting the truth.
IF your BMI (body mass index) is:
25 to 29.99 You are OVERWEIGHT
30 to 34.99 You are OBESE (class one)
35 to 39.99 You are OBESE (class two)
40 or Greater... YOU ARE MORBIDLY OBESE!
CLICK HERE TO: Calculate your Body Mass Index (BMI) Metric BMI Calculator Height ft in Weight lbs Or use our BMI Chart to determine your Body Mass Index.
a waist circumference over 102 cm (40 in) in men and over 88 cm (35 inches) in women.
If you don't believe you "really" have a problem (you're in denial) and you will
fail at any attempts to lose weight.
you can't change something you don't really believe needs to be changed
What so bad about being a little overweight? Are you saying "so what" I'm happy?
Excuse me but I need to say that Overweight people are NOT healthy people because they are at risk for Diabetes, Cardiovascular Disease
to name the TOP two!
Being FAT IS NOT HEALTHY!
No one who is FAT is or will ever be considered "healthy"
(activity and exercise is not where you start in this recipe - FOOD is the Number one problem with obesity, Exercise is the FROSTING on the CAKE)
*Note: although most would like to say "my weight problem is due to a metabolic problem" (thyroid being THE number one EXCUSE), it may be.
But real excuses or not ....YOU CONTRIBUTE TO THE PROBLEM
Take responsibility for your health, please. Yes, Menopause is a culprit to weight gain (especially in the waist) BUT YOU CAN DO SOMETHING ABOUT IT!
YOU are a victim by choice
STOP being a Prisoner in your BODY!
Take a SERIOUS look at your relationship with FOOD
you may not know this but you have a RELATIONSHIP
It can be a love, hate or addictive relationship, but I guarantee it is a Relationship.
It started when you were born, bottle fed, breast fed.... how you were brought up,
culture ........... ah, the Italian mother... "eat something.... manga"
Reason you're fat: C O U L D I T B E?
Is it because you have a unhealthy relationship with food?
Is it because you have poor habits?
Is it because you have NO respect for your body?
Is it because you're feeding the demons inside you, trying to sooth them?
* demons: unforgiveness, anger, FEAR
"C"heck your Habits
HABITS! Eating is a habitual event in our lives.
We eat without giving much thought to
we are eating....
if it's there ....WE EAT.
If we're bored, we eat
If we're stressed, we eat
If we're celebrating we eat
If we're socializing, having a business meeting....
If it looks good, we eat it
WE freak'n Eat just because ... we have a relationship with food
It's obvious food has become an indulgent passion... cooking shows, TV commercials, advertisements. FLIP, even our beauty products smell so good we wish we could eat them!
Creamy Sugar Sweet Vanilla scrubs for our face and body
Gingerbread hand lotion!
ok, maybe sometimes we do eat once in a while because we ARE hungry.
Did you know that thirst is many times mistaken as hunger? True
Seriously, if you wrote down every time you ate and noted how you felt when you choose to eat something,
how often would you write :
"I had hunger pangs?"
"I felt hungry"
There is a difference between actually being hungry and feeling hungry
"FEELINGS" are not always our friend
Have you ever found yourself walking to the kitchen while muttering to yourself
"I really don't WANT to eat...
but HUMMMMM what shall I eat?"
THE Next part of the Recipe
"D"iscover yourself (yes, Self Discovery)
Start a Journal or a Blog as your first ACTION
This is all about a Journey
You will write down your feelings about food and about eating. How you feel when you eat, when you desire to eat, how you eat
(shovel it in, or take your time)
Journalize anything and everything about who you are and how you feel in life
this is about "self discovery" (you probably have been hiding the real you behind the "fat")
I told you it may be brutal
It causes stress for us, when we try to believe we're ok being heavy. Our body's stress's when we see someone "thinner than us".... right?
There isn't a women alive that wouldn't admit she "hates trying on bathing suits"
So stop lying to yourself.... discover what you really want for yourself.
Let me cut to the Quick here:
It's REALLY not about LOSING WEIGHT!
(negative word: losing)
It's about Gaining HEALTH!
(positive word: gaining)
this is very important!
Two things here: It is human nature to want MORE
So when we say to ourselves:
"I want to GAIN"
we can't help but move into a winning attitude with
this positive word
When we say
"I want to Lose"
We have sabotage our efforts because we've used a negative word
Attitude is what determines success
This leads me into what I believe is the Key that unlocks the door to weight loss
ALL my blogs for the past 2 years have been about BALANCE
I have discovered that in order to "lose weight"
I had to choose to GET HEALTHY as my objective... the weight loss followed!
The battle of Weight loss is truly a battle of our Physical , Mental and Spiritual being
When we are "overweight" it is a systemic problem.
This means it "STEMS" from our unhealthy Mental, Spiritual and Physical choices and is woven into every part of our being until it takes over
Yes, it is our choice
if we spent as much time dressing up for the day "spiritually" as we do physically... WOW that would be powerful
if we spent as much energy seeking "mental" food that nourishes us and helps our minds to grow strong, as we do physically seeking "where and what we're going to eat"... WOW that would be powerful
Balancing our world
Balancing our lives
Balancing our thoughts
Balancing our BEING
...... that is when we will have what we really need
"Health and Wellness"
Yap.... there is the NITTY gritty of "GAINING Health" and (losing weight as the benefit)
Most of my blogs have bit's and pieces... I'm going to try to put them in ONE easy step by step order